Good day to you all,
I hope life is treating you well.
On the fourth episode of the “What is a Good Life?” podcast, I have a conversation with Jindy Mann around our experiences with therapy.
Jindy is a co-Founder of Leader Brother Son, a group that works with individuals and organisations, with the goal of helping men become better and happier partners, colleagues, fathers, leaders, brothers, sons - and men. Which represents a significant departure from his past lives in Management Consultancy and Banking.
Jindy is also a good mate of mine, and we thought it would be helpful to have a conversation around our experiences with therapy, in part to break down stigma around what therapy is, how it works, what you could expect from it, and to show it’s a normal topic of conversation.
The structure for the newsletter is:
Short video clip from the podcast (1 minute)
My weekly reflection related to the weekly video clip (1.5 mins)
Full podcast episode - both video and audio (67 mins)
Two content related questions to prompt your own reflections on life
1. Weekly Clip from the Podcast
2. My weekly reflection
In our pursuit of feeling better, we often view that as arriving at a continuously happy place, where we perpetually feel good, stress is low, and sadness and tears are not really part of the equation.
Maybe we see tears as signifying weakness or something undesirable, but the reality is, life is going to continuously serve us moments of pain, and processing pain will always be a part of a good life.
No matter how much we meditate, workout, eat healthily, treat people well, etc., you are going to experience pain in life. Someone you love will obviously die at some point, or get sick, and you will experience loss generally – a job, a friendship, a relationship, an opportunity.
If life is teaching me anything, it is that there is little sense of fairness to it, and that life owes us literally nothing, despite the sense of entitlement we may still feel (for example I just assume I will live until at least 80).
I am not saying this to be dark or pessimistic, in fact, when I accept this, not in a Nihilistic manner - there remains an infinite amount of beauty and meaning in my life, I appreciate what I have all the more, by acknowledging the fragility of what I hold dear.
Giving myself space, an opportunity, or permission to continuously give this pain some form expression, through emotion, is the very thing that allows me to fully experience the great moments of awe, love, and wonder, that life invariably presents me with too.
3. Full Episode - Two Men’s Tales of Therapy with Jindy Mann - What is a Good Life? Ep. #4
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4. This week’s Questions
Is there a secret, an experience, or a thought you are holding onto that you wish you could share with someone?
How well do you know what’s happening, beneath the surface, in the lives of those closest to you?
About Me
I am a Coach based in Berlin, via Dublin, Ireland. I left behind a 15-year career in Capital Markets after I became extremely curious around what life, myself, and existence are all about.
I work with high-performing, individual clients who have hit their material goals and are trying to understand what comes after performance. I have also created a Corporate program (based on the question What is a Good Life?) for teams to foster greater trust, human connection, and diversity of thought within high-performing teams (click here for reference).
If you would like to work with me, or you simply want to get in touch, here’s my email and LinkedIn.